Relationship Laws

“If you have endured broken relationships and are in the process of becoming whole, it is very important to realize that you must have boundaries in which to live by in order to maintain the wholeness that you have received.  The Relationship Laws for Ladies Who Love God are specific, detailed confessions that help capture the essence of your newfound personal wholeness and how to go about maintaining it.  These “Laws” are intended to help you discern your motives for being in particular relationship, whether or not that relationship is

Captivated by the hidden beauty of the bride...

Captivated by the hidden beauty of the bride… (Photo credit: Hafsa Nabeel)

consistent with your godly values, and most importantly, whether or not a relationship would enhance your wholeness or cause further brokenness.

1. I am rooted, grounded, fixed and founded in the Love of God, not a position, title, having “Mrs.” in front of my name, not money, my looks, being cute, being smart or being seen.

2. I respect myself enough to lay boundaries in all relationships personally and professionally.

…  Read more at Whole Magazine by Maria Breeden”  The Fulltime Girl (proper crediting for a great article)

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Be Captivating by Setting Boundaries This book by the fabulous John & Stasi is fascinating and well worth the investment and time to acquire, read and digest. It will re-inforce your sense of self and will help the male reader to understand the very heart of ‘every’ woman. It will definitely help women understand their own yearnings and enable successful boundary setting. Suggesting? Read the rest of the article then get Captivating.


While We Wait – Be Awesome!

While waiting and hoping that we have a chance to fulfil our desire for marriage and scrabbling out of bed 6 times per night…socks on the floor, toilet seats left up, too much laundry, way too much ironing and the inevitable ‘tap on the shoulder’…ahem, let’s get busy serving others, laugh a lot and definitely, be awesome now. Why wait?

Kudos to the brilliance behind this video. Hats off to ya!

Holy Things

He turned over the plans for everything that God’s Spirit had brought to his mind: the design of the courtyards, the arrangements of rooms, and the closets for storing all the holy things. The Message Bible, 1 Chronicles 28:12

This is a journey I have embarked on with my faith anchored in the hope of sharing my life with someone, a suitable counterpart for me but in all I do I must remember this


It is God who sets for me great borders

And puts great passions in my heart –

It is He who knows His plans for me

He created my inner parts –

He knows my todays and all my tomorrows

And I must trust He knows what’s best –

So as I take each hopeful step

I must to Him  my plans subject.

So in planning and strategizing and doing all the wonderful things we must do, can do or should do …determining the design of the courtyards, the arrangements of rooms, and the closets for storing…all so we can get what we want, let us remember we are in fact first and foremost, holy things – His Temple!

‘Dating with Passion’ by Rob Eagar will challenge, correct and re-align your thinking as you plan your pursuit of marriage. It will help you ‘design the courtyards’ while emphasizing the main thing, You Are Holy Things! Then learn as much as you can about setting boundaries from ‘Boundaries in Dating’ by Dr. Henry Cloud  and Dr. John Townsend. Check them out here…Never, never forget, you are a Holy Thing! Widgets


The Naked Truth


W A I T! ! ! !   Follow Tweety Bird’s example above…and say it like you mean it so you don’t slip into depression in 3 mins 20 sec! Now watch the trailer then please go buy the film, It offers a Christian perspective on finding purpose while single…yay!!! good news at last!

While We Wait

We humans keep brainstorming options and plans, but GOD’s purpose prevails.                            The Message Bible, Pro 19:21

We live in a microwave world, a ‘everything when I need it’ world. Gone are the days when we would save up some money to buy that ‘hot’ coat we see in the shop window. Now, we just reach for the credit card and pay later!

Sadly the societal mindset in the 21st century is increasingly that we should be able to get everything we want when we want just because…well, we want it! On this life journey however we all, and especially those who are single, must stay fully aware that there is still life in spite of singleness… I know, shocking!…and that while we wait for the gift there is much work to be done.

So, here’s the ‘To Do’:

  • Look for ways to be productive whether through volunteering in your community or church;
  • Be ready and available to take those God appointments, you know the kind…you just happen to be in the right place at the right time to see someone in need and you happen to be in a position to give a word of encouragement or offer some other kind of support, yeah those, look out for them;
  • Take time to advance your education or develop new…or old skills;
  • Determine to give of yourself to others – it will help keep your mind off yourself and expand your network of  acquaintances and even build new friendships;
  • Choose to become the best person you can be by paying close attention to who God says you are, what passions He has placed in your heart and what problems He has given you the solutions for and
  • Finally, set your heart and mind to learn from Jesus and pray always, in good times and not-so-good times.

When its all said and done, it is God’s plans and purposes that will prevail so keep the main thing the main thing!



While you wait, you might like this fabulous book by Emily Stimpsom titled ‘The Catholic Girl’s Survival Guide for the Single Years: The Nuts and Bolts of Staying Sane and Happy While Waiting on Mr. Right’…I know, it’s a long title but check it out here…// Widgets


 GOD put the Man into a deep sleep. As he slept he removed one of his ribs and replaced it with flesh.  GOD then used the rib that he had taken from the Man to make Woman and presented her to the Man. The Man said, “Finally! Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh! Name her Woman for she was made from Man.” Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh. The Message Bible, Gen 2:21-24


Adam & Eve photo AdamEve.jpg

I can’t seem to find out who created this, but it’s ‘inspired’.

Did God Really Say…? Part 2

Maintaining Faith When Christian and Single

I had such an experience recently…heck, I’m still having it. I’ve been down a path…up a mountain toward my own Mt. Moriah with my eye squarely fixed on ‘happy ever after’. Like Abraham I was sure I heard God say… ! But like most people I know, I thought the destination was the goal, the purpose, the divine intention when in fact, the destination turned out to be the journey itself.

I should probably be upset with God but hey, how can the pot accuse the Potter of faulty design? In fact, I find that I needed this journey up the mountain. It was a time to reflect and question and remember

why I trust God. I needed time to remember the past and consider how far I had come. It was a time to settle, once and for all the question of marital desperation…‘Am I desperate enough to settle?’


wait (Photo credit: CmdrFire)

It was a long a tedious journey which involved many days of wondering, ‘Did God Really Say?’ It included a struggle to remain steadfast in my faith in the God who promised to give bread when we ask for bread, never a stone. But, I have no regrets. I can still stand tall today, plus I now also have a solid awareness of a holy resolution and a new fascination with God that’s burning strong within me. So as I remember the significance of this day…Jesus Christ crucified for me…I draw more grace to close the door…although this is proving a bit of a challenge as there seems to be a foot stuck in the doorway.

I needed to be on this journey, in this place so I could come to this holy resolution within my heart. So I’ll wait!


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