What Men Want

The now fabulous ‘Reality Expert‘ says ‘Men want women to be nurturing, supportive and gentle’.

“Ladies we get it…you are more than capable of making your own money, running your own businesses, making your own decisions, and negotiating your own deals. That’s not the question…the question becomes do you really WANT to have to pay your own bills, cut your own grass, take out your own trash and fight all your own fights? If your answer to that question is “yes” then more power to you, but I’m more than willing to bet that most women would not mind having a partner to help share the load with. ….Maybe it’s time men chose we before me and women chose family over feminism!” Blog post, I am Feminist Hear Me Roar

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When I read the above paragraph from the post I immediately knew where I stood but I couldn’t help but wonder ‘which woman, under what circumstances would rather be woman-all-BY-herself? But then, we all have the potential to be the result of our individual or collective experiences and unfortunately, sometimes that ‘result’ is merely a reaction to a negative rather than a CHOICE. But that’s a talk for another day. Today, I would rather clarify my own position.

So here goes.

As an unattached female, I am certainly capable of making my own money, setting up and running my own business and doing all – and more – mentioned above. I am also wise enough to acknowledge and joyfully embrace my Designer Desires – the desire to share my life in its entirety, from the uttermost to the innermost with another is wired into my DNA. It’s a designer thing! And regardless what anyone says, every living, breathing human being has a Designer Desire because we were all designed to receive love from God and to give love to God. This insatiable hunger finds its manifestation in humanity is various ways – our desire for intimacy, for sex or for some other ‘fulfilment’ – some have tried more shoes, more branded items, faster cars, more money, bigger, better, more. But the hunger is insatiable if God is not the number one choice.

Having said all that, I put my hand up and openly confess that I want to me married – not because I need him to pay the bills or cut the lawn..but please honey, do cut the lawn… but more importantly, I want to share my life with someone, who loves God and who desires above all things to hear God say ‘well done!’ I want to be intimately involved in helping him become all that God designed him to be and for him to willing be that for me. I want to be vulnerable and naked – yet unashamed – to be challenged and buffed and polished. I want to be iron rubbing up against iron. I want to face the challenges of life with someone who is one with me. I want to be there with him in every and any situation, good, bad or ugly – to stand as one in the face of whatever storm we need to face.

So I’m content to be seen as a disappointment in the eyes of the ‘feminist’. I can live with that because beyond individuality, there is the higher call to unity. Singleness has however taught me to see how easily our unfulfilled need for partnership can force us to become hardened, firm, determined, self-reliant and self-preserving. It is therefore understandable how when a man suddenly darkens her doorway her firmly established battlement and highly developed self-protecting instincts often result in the clash of thunder and lightning of the feminist’s strength – and no date, no marriage and continued need of self-reliance!

No! Not for me. I will happily wear the trousers when I need to set up and run my businesses and the like but I have every intention to leave my trousers at the door when I come home. I have no desire to be KING in my home – it’s hard enough just being woman!

Sparks!

Marry Me For God’s Sake!

“If you want to be free to serve Jesus, there’s no question—stay single. Marriage takes a lot of time. But if you want to become more like Jesus, I can’t imagine any better thing to do than to get married. Being married forces you to face some character issues you’d never have to face otherwise.” Sacred Marriage by Gary L. Thomas

As such, I think I am perfectly poised to fill this vacancy in your life for the following reasons:

  • I am still a work in progress therefore I am constantly growing, changing and on a journey to becoming whole.

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    Obstacle (Photo credit: The U.S. Army)

  • I am well equipped to buff, polish and shine your own personality and to help develop character, resilience and patience thus helping you in your journey towards reflecting Jesus more and more each day.
  • My various idiosyncrasies, though diminishing…multiplying in flux, will provide an ample supply of challenges to contribute to the sanctification process, the Potter’s wheel and the refiner’s fire that are so necessary in your journey toward dying to self.

I believe I come as a full package capable of advancing your ultimate goal to be holy, to love God first, most and best and to love your fellow-man as yourself. Marry me will accelerate the sharpening and polishing of your character, heart motivations and your ability to grow in understanding of 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.

Did I say I’m not perfect yet? According to Sacred Marriage by Gary L. Thomas, that makes me perfect for you!  So, this is my case for marriage. Do you have any questions?

My thanks to the Institute of American Values for their Literature Review of the Consequences of Marriage for African Americans. It is a good read. Go check it out for the full review.

Marry Me: I’m Good for Your Health!

In continuation of my series on the consequences of marriage, I welcome you to part 3 of my journey to prove my nubility. This series is based on ‘A Comprehensive Review of Literature on the Consequences of Marriage for African Americans’ – which for my purposes I will classify as people of African descent.

In an effort to not bore you with statistical evidence that marrying me would have a positive effect on your psychological well-being, I offer in stead the findings – see the review’s link above for details – from numerous studies  over the years which conclude the following:

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Calm Lake (Photo credit: Moyan_Brenn)

  • married ‘people of African descent’ report being happier,
  • feeling more satisfied with life,
  • report fewer emotional problems than their unmarried peers,
  • are less likely to commit suicide or express support for suicide and
  • are more outgoing.

The research in this area indicates that in my usual-female-self-sacrificing-way marrying me will do more for your psychological well-being than it will do for me – but I’m just a saint really.

It is my opinion therefore that if marrying me will do all this for you as well as save you from killing yourself, then there really is no reason for you to continue to jeopardise your psychological well-being and your life any further.

…uhm, is this a good reason?

Divine Spark 🙂

PS – There is more…

Marry Me For Social Prowess

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Black family tree (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In my previous post , ‘Marry Me For Money’, I made a clear presentation of my economic skills. In this second post in my series based on the consequences of marriage for African Americans – for our purposes let’s say people of African descent – I present to you my social and familial skills.

Partnering with me will result in:

  • a significant increase in the rejection of illegal and unethical behavior,
  • a significant increase in spiritual pursuits,
  • more positive interactions with family members compared to unmarried peers
  • greater satisfaction with family life especially for you

…and going beyond the call of duty, marrying me

  • makes you less likely to be involved in criminal activity …!?@£&@# ? …let’s re-phrase this one – provides mental and emotional stability, thereby promoting a greater sense of inner calm and restraint – that sounds much better.

So economically and socially marrying me brings fabulous benefits and I’m not done yet. Next, I would like to share with you the psychological benefits I can bring to the party – if I am invited!         …next post…

Divine Sparks!

Words Create

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English: Think you already knew the old saying: “A picture is worth a thousand words?” Think again. Let’s ask Andy and see what he says… What’s your explanation? (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

What if you were told that your words had creative power and that they had far greater impact in your life than you thought?

What if you had the power in your mouth to determine or at the very least contribute to the outcome of your life?

What if by simply exercising a little self-discipline you could empower yourself and become more positive in the process? Would you?

“Do you know anybody, maybe even yourself, who loves to use phrases like: “This only happens to me”, “Life’s a b*tch“, “I caaaaaaaaan’t!”, “Never!”, “I just can’t win”, “I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t”.

The biggest problem with these phrases is not that they are negative or self centered, it’s that they stop you from taking action. Phrases like this paralyze us and fool us into thinking that we have no power and no choice. Which is nonsense.

What if our words always made us and who ever we are talking to feel inspired, empowered and re-energized?

I’ve created a list of some of the top five words and phrases you might want to delete from your vocabulary. I also included some replacements!

1. I can’t

You’re right! If you say you can’t, it’s over. Just that simple. The door is closed and locked. However, maybe you’re right. Maybe at this moment you can’t run 3 miles at once, maybe you can’t complete the project in 3 hours, maybe you can’t immediately forgive someone. With that said, you must learn to. I must learn, I will learn, I’m preparing myself to...is a much more empowering phrase that will propel you to take action, take risks and grow.”

Read the entire post by the fabulous Jeff Moore at My Everyday Power Blog

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As A Man Thinketh Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks, so what’s in your heart? Are you thinking right?

…and click this one, it’s a must get!

Divinesparks x

Unpolished Gems

Gone are the days when we as women could roll out our 6ft long papyrus scrolls listing the qualities, characteristics, idiosyncrasies, height, tactility and shape of eyebrows…#@/!? of the dream husband. Gone are the days when ‘good Church girls’ could always expect to find or be found by ‘good Church boys’ in Church.

One wise person said, ‘If you keep doing the same thing in the same way but keep expecting different results – you are as mad as a hatter.’ (paraphrased)

Rather, we are in an age in which as girls we must be prepared to be both ‘prospector and refiner‘ while you outnumbered boys don’t need to worry about such things. It’s a ‘cash and carry’ world for you guys. So while we invest our time refining ourselves, identifying our strengths, weaknesses, skills and gifts and while we calculate what we have to bring to a relationship, we must also be aware that most men are boys…until they have to grow up and even then they often only do that when they meet Ms. Right and ‘suddenly’ they want to be ‘better’ men…or they finally connect with their divine assignment.

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If that is really the case , we must put away our fairy-tale desires and embrace the reality of things.  When it all comes down to it, I need refining, you need refining and yes…you the wonderful Mr. Could-Be-Right, will quite likely need refining. If Yahweh, the eternal God who could perfect us in a blink has opted to use 6000 years to perfect a Bride for His Son, what makes us think we shouldn’t have to help with the polishing where our spouse is concerned?

So let’s add a pinch of salt to those mighty lists and focus instead on refining ‘self’ both spiritually and physically and be intentional about our willingness to see beyond what our natural eyes can see. Beneath every unpolished gem is a potentially great prize.

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And if as ‘girls we are faithful to re-order our thinking, we would be better able to ensure that we stand out, not just because of all the curves, swirls and …pearls adorning us but more for the true beauties we are within.

Sparks!

Is He/She Interested?

Found this article on FB and thought I’d do a self-assessment…dissection? Anyhow, the purple bits will be my take:

  • She tells you. Eventually
  • Pay attention to body language.  If she leans into you, or if she is kind of side ways to you.  If she is leaning into you, she’s interested. Naturally attentive but not necessarily interested in you as a potential ‘beau’… If she is sideways, she is creating distance.  Purse on the table in the restaurant is putting an object between you two, thus causing space.  When dancing, if she is creating arms length space, she isn’t into you. – I’m being my ‘usual’ shy, reserved self. Yes! I said SHY. What?
  • If she is nosy and asks many questions about you, and your life, she is totally into you. – or is intentional about investing her time wisely…hence the investigation…’interest’.
  • You’re not that funny, but she laughs at everything you say.  She is totally into you. – or she is over-stimulated on caffeine (dutch courage) or genuinely doesn’t want you to feel embarrassed that the date is a bum.
  • She always has time for you.  She’s into you. – yeah, or she’s just a naturally kind, patience, longsuffering and caring person. Don’t be pessimistic…she’s into you…
  • She never leaves you hanging, or a call/text message/posting unanswered.  She answers right away.  She’s into you. until you see this message, ‘SERVICE ERROR 305:MESSAGE DELIVERY FAILED. FURTHER MESSAGES WILL BE CHARGED TO YOUR ACCOUNT.’
  • On a date, she twirls her hair, or a necklace, or plays with a button on her blouse, she is into you. – she could be bored or nervous?!
  • She has empathy for you when something goes array, or something bothers you.  She has feelings for you, and wants to show it. – or she has a pastoral anointing and is just naturally a caring, empathic person.
  • She mothers in a small way.  She wants to care for you, and so she is into you. – …sigh…maybe. Nurses care for you.
  • She goes to the restroom a lot on your date.  She is making sure she looks her best for you. – or she is limiting the amount of time she has to sit in front of you…laughing at your jokes. No, I don’t mean to be nasty, I’m being honest. Come on now, don’t leave me standing here on my own!
  • She gives you undivided attention.  No cell calls or texts when with you. – She learnt a long time ago to treat people as you would like to be treated.
  • She compliments you, encourages you, and sends appreciation your way.  She’s into you. – …kind, honest, considerate of other people’s feelings.
  • She bats her eyelashes and smiles a lot.  She’s into you. – that sounds more like it…are those false lashes getting in her eyes? No? She may be into you beau, wooohooo!
  • She seems like she doesn’t want the date to end, she will kind of be blusy when it is time to wrap it up.  She wants to spend more time with you.  She is into you. – There’s nothing interesting on tv at 8:30pm so why not? But it’s quite likely she enjoys being with you…this time round.
  • She finds ways to touch you.  A bump, touching your shirt and complimenting it, talking and touching you as she talks. – gotcha! Woohooo! If she does that to everyone, she could be…a socialTourette’.
  • She asks questions about things you like to do so she can see herself doing those things with you.  Future thinking. – Intentionally assessing how much time to invest. So we have anything in common? Is this worth pursuing?
  • Online.  There aren’t too many of your posts that she doesn’t comment on. -Assessment…curiousity…maybe enchantment.
  • Online.  She goes the extra effort and posts on your wall, or personal blog space. – you could be in for a chance.
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CatnipComic070_Colour (Photo credit: Catnip Cat by Jeff Hoyle)

No, this is not about me trying to discourage any lovely folk from believing and/or using these tips. I’m merely pointing out that people are…well, people! We are seldom ‘cookie-cutter-cute’ and seldom do we adhere to set rules of emotional conduct just because there is a statistic in the ether.

My addition to this would be to listen carefully to both the spoken words and the silences. I believe it is unwise to try to fit people into boxes because we then set ourselves up for disappointment. We all know what roses look like but if we were to assume that ALL roses look-alike in their detail and smell alike, we would miss countless varieties of roses on the assumption that ‘we know that one already’.

It is my opinion therefore that you add wisdom, prayer and a pound or two of common sense when trying to assess an individual and even so, it is time alone that will reveal the truth. As much as we all wish God in His infinite wisdom would take ‘counsel’ and hand us a manual for guaranteed success in these matters, the bottom line is we can never really know the heart of anyone. Not by statistics, assessment nor even the things they say.

That’s why it is so important to enter in with both eyes wide open, a heart submitted to God’s wisdom, a willingness to wait, check and double-check and even then employ the wisdom of a multitude of good counsel. You would be amazed how skilled some are at deception until you are almost in too deep.

Selah!

Find or Be Found

According to the website Single Season there are quite a few places I can expect to find or be found so I figure what the heck, let’s have a good look. So here is the list, does it get you thinking? Oh by the way, the purple inserts are mine…

  1. Airport Lounge – I’m not a frequent flyer yet so unless I get a job at the an Airport that’s out.
  2. Art gallery uhm… enhance my appreciation of art or fine some sort of art I can honestly gush over.
  3. Barbershop (take a young brother/nephew) – aah…uhm…
  4. Birthday parties –
  5. Book club – uhm…Do men read…much? Honestly, I don’t know. If so, what kinds of books would be enjoyable or informative for both genders? Really. Business…technical books? Books about sports? Fishing? Cars? Boys Toys? Ok…I’m naive.
  6. Bookstore – Been to Floyd’s, London numerous times. A few Dads and Grand Dads…!? Don’t do married men nor …well. Doesn’t seem promising, especially since Amazon and Kindle. Bad Amazon!!!
  7. Business events/networking uhm, Ok…sharpen my networking skills.
  8. Careers fair – ?
  9. Charitable service – Currently spend waaay, too much time in Church meetings, committees, community planning meetings and the male:female ratio is the same…oh with lots of married and/or Older men…with a capital Oh!
  10. Christenings – sigh…
  11. Church – Home congregation has a ratio problem and Church Trawling ‘me no likey-likey’. I want to be where I’m suppose to be, doing what I’m suppose to be doing at the time I’m suppose to be doing it and just be found! After all, God knows where I live!!! This idea is great for men though…calling all men!
  12. Church conferences/events (at other churches too) – I work too hard…I knew it! I’m always the busy bee among all the other busy bees getting the job done and darn it, I always forget to (a) check for the r
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    Search Privacy (Photo credit: mushon)

    ing (b) smile more (c) work with one eye open! Note to self – Multi-task!

  13. Church ministry team – Didn’t I just say their was a ratio issue… aha! I’ll join CVM and try to get my congregation to volunteer as party hosts for the Pentecost Festival. #1 is no good for me…but I just started following them on twitter…Oh the sacrifices I make for my virtual journey buddies. And #2, local missions, Church networking and way more important is the potential to reach men…at least for the next generation…uhm, maybe.
  14. Coffee shop – How many Hot Chocolates would I have to daintily sip on before you Sir, walk across and ask if you may join me?
  15. Comedy club – not really feeling the feasibility of this one…while I’m rolling on the floor, holding my belly, gasping for air and mopping up my tears…but it could work.
  16. Commute to work – Same journey everyday at about the same time. Beloved Nana and her hubby making their daily trip for a stint of shopping or to pick up their pension; Mums with their small, medium or large ‘bundles of joy’, students and lots of guys with their trousers below their bums…!>@%&~)#? I think I need to move, don’t you? Oh, and there’s that one-legged guy with his dog. But hey now…don’t be picky!
  17. Engagement parties – Note to Self: Find new friends who are getting engaged ‘soonest’.
  18. Evening classes (i.e. photography, cooking, accounting, dance) – Accounting, done! Prospects, none!
  19. Finance seminars – uhm, promising. But would a guy try to pick up a girl while admittedly needing to attend a finance seminar…possibly under the cover of darkness? Just kidding. Sounds workable.
  20. Gospel concerts – I feel like ‘Country Mouse’ now. How many Gospel Concerts do I really need to go to in one lifetime? Besides, who goes to these things with ‘scope him out, catch his eye, somehow get him to ask for my number’ as their primary agenda or does it require a skilled ‘Halle-may-I-have-your-number-please-lujah’? Gain new skills!
  21. Hairdressers (take a young sister/niece) – Possibly a fab idea for non-UK residents but us UK-ites are ‘blessed’ with a predominantly female:male ratio in Hairdressing. So unless…ahem…
  22. Health food store – So here’s my shopping list: psyllium husk, vitamin a-z?, 1 born-again tall, dark & handsome, rye bread, tea tree oil, an engagement ring and soy milk. How’s that?
  23. Library – shhhh! No talking.
  24. Gyms – Ok…I’m gonna join the gym. It’s my New Year’s Resolution for 2014. Promise.
  25. Supermarket – ‘Would you pass me that ‘Home Alone’ dvd from the top rack please? So, do you come here often?’ Yes, we sell dvds in our supermarkets, don’t you?
  26. Local town meeting – oooh…not one more meeting…groan.
  27. Lunch breaks (get away from the office) – Note to Self: Cancel Desk-date.
  28. Museum –  Been…done…t-shirt…families…grands a plenty.
  29. Online dating sites – I’ve only seen one that says ‘Christian’ that actually seem to have ‘real’ Christian men on it. Maybe it’s just me. Check out Christian Connections.
  30. Opera – Les Miserable! I believe you should never begin something you don’t want in your life…longterm!
  31. Professional Dating service – Isn’t this just available to Asians and/or Muslims? Scratching head… Research!
  32. School reunion – oooooh…3 steps forward, 15 back?
  33. Sports (i.e. Tennis or Golf club) – Fab for sports fanatics. Note to Self: Love Sports! It’s good for you.
  34. Sports events (i.e. baseball, football) – ….uhm Les Miserable!!! If I love him then I…’ll try reeeally hard to love his sports. Until then, no thanks.
  35. Support groups – ‘…sniffle, sob, sob…’. What kind o f support group lends itself to dating? Ponder! AA…Stop Smoking…Drug Rehab…Grieve Counselling…oy!
  36. Technology event – I don’t know my jpeg from my Drupal so this could work. Calling all Teachers! (Males Please…did I say Christian?)
  37. Theatre – This is a really long list. Something here should work.
  38. Volunteer work – Since I’m doing a lot of these things I should be hitched already, no?
  39. Walking/Public transportation (instead of driving) – tick
  40. Walks in the park – families…couples…dog-loving (read ‘kissy-kissy-dog-loving’) walkers… Find new park!
  41. Weddings – Find new friends who are getting married…or Gate Crash!
  42. Wine tasting evening – Develop an appreciation for alcohol.
  43. Word of Mouth – The boys don’t talk…they already have an abundance of choices. The girls? We all have the same problem. Mum, Grand, Dad…oy! The stress is already too great.

I truly hope you feel encouraged by this list. You now have 43 more chances of finding…or being found.

As for me, I’m getting some books and moving to Mars!
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Vacancy: Apply Within!

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Vacancy (Photo credit: EricMagnuson)

“Have you ever been for a job interview? When you went to try and find a job, did you walk in there arrogant and proud thinking, “Well, I’m really going to grill these people to make sure that they give me the right kind of benefits that I want”?

 “Did you walk in there with a full list of questions that you wanted to ask your prospective employer, and you were planning to hit him, one after the other, until he bowed to you and said, “Okay I will give you what you want!”? Single No More pg. 19

So according to Les, when there is a ‘vacancy’ in your life for a spouse, this is not the way to do it!

You need to ask the following questions but certainly  not in an ‘interrogative-floodlights shining in their eyes-potential spouse mentally tied to a chair-hooked up to a live wire with questions flying at ever-increasing speed’ sort of way. For some peculiar reason potential spouses just don’t seem to like this approach very much. Go figure!

Please check out the following questions to see whether they fell from your lips in your last ‘first encounter’.

  1. So… what’s your profession? or
  2. What qualifications do you have?
  3. Where do you work?
  4. Do you enjoy your job?
  5. Where do you see yourself in 3-5 years…in 5-10 years?
  6. How do you feel about children…pets…discipling children…?
  7. Who do you think should discipline ‘our’ children?
  8. Do you prefer city life or living in the country?
  9. How do you feel about adoption?
  10. Do you agree that a woman’s place is in the home?
  11. Do you think a man should foot all the household bills?
  12. How do you feel about a woman being the higher earner in a marriage?

Well…after that I can’t think of anything to say. Can you?

DivineSparks

Oh…oh, How much do you earn?

Eternal Bridegroom

Amidst the clutter of life, it is easy to forget that all the beauty we see, all that we call true LIFE and all the best things we pursue are merely shadows of the heart of our God and King. It is He who is the best and greatest prize and the first and the absolute Bridegroom worth pursuing. It is for Him that mankind was made.

Six Thousand years of life upon the earth, of struggles both spiritual and natural, uphill climbs and valleys low and all of this because the great God who needs nothing desires to lavish His love upon a people. A people who would, through good times or bad, of their own free will embrace His friendship and eternal love; that they would have and maintain a heart-connect with Him, even if things don’t go our way.

An Eternal Bridegroom and a people to marry.

The Church’s Biggest Challenge: Singles?

Lauren says, “I do believe that there should be some place where I, and other singles, can acknowledge the desire for sexual relationships and, in the context of rich church tradition and in the company of older Christians, try to figure out what we can do about it.”

That’s a fair request.

“Seriously, folks, what church do you know that actually talks to teens about why not to sleep around? And then we send these kids off to college and expect them to stay chaste for four years? Even if a church provides minimal help along this line for the high school set—mainly because that is the age range where many people first have sex—church reinforcement dribbles to nothing during the college years. Unfortunately, the 20-24 age bracket has the highest abortion rates in this country.”

…Ouch. She’s got a point.

“Christian singles I talk to considered virginity as a waiting room until God produced the right mate. When that waiting room started to look like permanent lodging, despair set in.”

“And it’s not just the doing without sex. Have you ever noticed how singles never get touched? It’s living in this bubble of no hugs, no physical contact whatsoever. Small wonder so many revert to pets (I have three cuddly cats) and professional massages.”

“Singles struggle through all this alone. The childless ones get mocked at family reunions or treated as though they are still teen-agers. Promiscuous friends who break every biblical rule in the book end up married, with healthy children. God sure didn’t punish them. But he’s not rewarding us. And so, singles see their reasons for abstinence fading as they arrive in their mid-thirties. Women see their fertile years creep down to the single digits. All the old arguments about waiting for God to bring them romance—remember Ann Kiemel’s book I Gave God Time?—don’t ring true anymore.”

These excerpts are from an article, ‘No One Wants to Talk About It‘ by Julia Duin which caused a big stir more than a decade ago. Has the Church succeeded in at least attempting to address these issues?  I don’t by any means put myself forward as a panacea of truth in these matters…hey, I’m unmarried…sigh, but I am willing to have the conversation, facilitate the discussion and try to light a candle or even just a spark. As the article aptly states, the usual clichés do not work, they are not helpful and they are certainly not life-giving.

I would therefore like to invite you, the Church to join me in dissecting this issue to come up with Godly solutions, because God has one…two…an infinite supply of answers to our every woe. So…

Follow me on Twitter or be a friend on FB and let’s get this thing addressed! One can chase a thousand, two ten thousand but all of us? Great things could happen!

The Naked Truth

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W A I T! ! ! !   Follow Tweety Bird’s example above…and say it like you mean it so you don’t slip into depression in 3 mins 20 sec! Now watch the trailer then please go buy the film, It offers a Christian perspective on finding purpose while single…yay!!! good news at last!

While We Wait

We humans keep brainstorming options and plans, but GOD’s purpose prevails.                            The Message Bible, Pro 19:21

We live in a microwave world, a ‘everything when I need it’ world. Gone are the days when we would save up some money to buy that ‘hot’ coat we see in the shop window. Now, we just reach for the credit card and pay later!

Sadly the societal mindset in the 21st century is increasingly that we should be able to get everything we want when we want just because…well, we want it! On this life journey however we all, and especially those who are single, must stay fully aware that there is still life in spite of singleness… I know, shocking!…and that while we wait for the gift there is much work to be done.

So, here’s the ‘To Do’:

  • Look for ways to be productive whether through volunteering in your community or church;
  • Be ready and available to take those God appointments, you know the kind…you just happen to be in the right place at the right time to see someone in need and you happen to be in a position to give a word of encouragement or offer some other kind of support, yeah those, look out for them;
  • Take time to advance your education or develop new…or old skills;
  • Determine to give of yourself to others – it will help keep your mind off yourself and expand your network of  acquaintances and even build new friendships;
  • Choose to become the best person you can be by paying close attention to who God says you are, what passions He has placed in your heart and what problems He has given you the solutions for and
  • Finally, set your heart and mind to learn from Jesus and pray always, in good times and not-so-good times.

When its all said and done, it is God’s plans and purposes that will prevail so keep the main thing the main thing!

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While-you-wait

While you wait, you might like this fabulous book by Emily Stimpsom titled ‘The Catholic Girl’s Survival Guide for the Single Years: The Nuts and Bolts of Staying Sane and Happy While Waiting on Mr. Right’…I know, it’s a long title but check it out here…//
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