GOD said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion….So GOD formed from the dirt of the ground all the animals of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the Man to see what he would name them. Whatever the Man called each living creature, that was its name. The Man named the cattle, named the birds of the air, named the wild animals; but he didn’t find a suitable companion. GOD put the Man into a deep sleep. As he slept he removed one of his ribs and replaced it with flesh. GOD then used the rib that he had taken from the Man to make Woman and presented her to the Man. The Man said, “Finally! Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh! Name her Woman for she was made from Man.” Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh. The two of them, the Man and his Wife, were naked, but they felt no shame. The Message Bible, Genesis 2:18-25
It was God who decided that it was not good for man to be alone. As our designer, He determined that in order for us to function as He intends, it would be best that we be partnered up with a suitable counterpart, that we not be left lonely. A primary reason for marriage is therefore simply, companionship.
Marriage left to grow or nurture and water itself without the dedicated input of the spouses involved, will not deal with the loneliness issue all by itself. Marriage, after all, is merely a tool or platform if you will, on which two people can make the choice to ‘leave and cleave’, nurture and support each other in pursuing the greatest love and source of ultimate fulfillment.
Marriage means not having to travel through life alone. It can and should be a beautiful thing.
“If you want to be free to serve Jesus, there’s no question—stay single. Marriage takes a lot of time. But if you want to become more like Jesus, I can’t imagine any better thing to do than to get married. Being married forces you to face some character issues you’d never have to face otherwise.”Sacred Marriage by Gary L. Thomas
As such, I think I am perfectly poised to fill this vacancy in your life for the following reasons:
I am still a work in progress therefore I am constantly growing, changing and on a journey to becoming whole.
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I am well equipped to buff, polish and shine your own personality and to help develop character, resilience and patience thus helping you in your journey towards reflecting Jesus more and more each day.
My various idiosyncrasies, though diminishing…multiplying in flux, will provide an ample supply of challenges to contribute to the sanctification process, the Potter’s wheel and the refiner’s fire that are so necessary in your journey toward dying to self.
I believe I come as a full package capable of advancing your ultimate goal to be holy, to love God first, most and best and to love your fellow-man as yourself. Marry me will accelerate the sharpening and polishing of your character, heart motivations and your ability to grow in understanding of 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.
Did I say I’m not perfect yet? According to Sacred Marriage by Gary L. Thomas, that makes me perfect for you! So, this is my case for marriage. Do you have any questions?
In continuation of my series on the consequences of marriage, I welcome you to part 3 of my journey to prove my nubility. This series is based on ‘A Comprehensive Review of Literature on the Consequences of Marriage for African Americans’ – which for my purposes I will classify as people of African descent.
In an effort to not bore you with statistical evidence that marrying me would have a positive effect on your psychological well-being, I offer in stead the findings – see the review’s link above for details – from numerous studies over the years which conclude the following:
Calm Lake (Photo credit: Moyan_Brenn)
married ‘people of African descent’ report being happier,
feeling more satisfied with life,
report fewer emotional problems than their unmarried peers,
are less likely to commit suicide or express support for suicide and
are more outgoing.
The research in this area indicates that in my usual-female-self-sacrificing-way marrying me will do more for your psychological well-being than it will do for me – but I’m just a saint really.
It is my opinion therefore that if marrying me will do all this for you as well as save you from killing yourself, then there really is no reason for you to continue to jeopardise your psychological well-being and your life any further.
In my previous post , ‘Marry Me For Money’, I made a clear presentation of my economic skills. In this second post in my series based on the consequences of marriage for African Americans – for our purposes let’s say people of African descent – I present to you my social and familial skills.
Partnering with me will result in:
a significant increase in the rejection of illegal and unethical behavior,
a significant increase in spiritual pursuits,
more positive interactions with family members compared to unmarried peers
greater satisfaction with family life especially for you
…and going beyond the call of duty, marrying me
makes you less likely to be involved in criminal activity …!?@£&@# ? …let’s re-phrase this one – provides mental and emotional stability, thereby promoting a greater sense of inner calm and restraint – that sounds much better.
So economically and socially marrying me brings fabulous benefits and I’m not done yet. Next, I would like to share with you the psychological benefits I can bring to the party – if I am invited! …next post…
Amidst the clutter of life, it is easy to forget that all the beauty we see, all that we call true LIFE and all the best things we pursue are merely shadows of the heart of our God and King. It is He who is the best and greatest prize and the first and the absolute Bridegroom worth pursuing. It is for Him that mankind was made.
Six Thousand years of life upon the earth, of struggles both spiritual and natural, uphill climbs and valleys low and all of this because the great God who needs nothing desires to lavish His love upon a people. A people who would, through good times or bad, of their own free will embrace His friendship and eternal love; that they would have and maintain a heart-connect with Him, even if things don’t go our way.
You yourselves are all the endorsement we need. Your very lives are a letter that anyone can read by just looking at you. Christ himself wrote it–not with ink, but with God’s living Spirit; not chiseled into stone, but … Continue reading →
I came across a wonderful book a few months ago aptly called, ‘Single No More’ by Les Crause. Recently revised and released in kindle under the title, ‘Finding God’s Perfect Match: Hope For Christian Singles’…I prefer the old name and yes, I am going to use the old version here.
Chapter 1 begins thus,
The title of this book is ‘Single No More’, and my goal is to make sure that by the time you have finished reading and applying the principles, you will indeed no longer be single.
Suffice to say, I more or less sped through the book in a flash and knew right away I needed to go through it step by step …s l o w l y. This blog will be a documentary of the step-by-step process through this teaching so I invite you to come along with me. Throughout my exploration of this ‘other’ way, I will add my opinions and findings relating to our spiritual, mental and physical preparation so don’t be surprised when I start talking about gifts development, fashion and personal hygiene?!!