Gone are the days when we as women could roll out our 6ft long papyrus scrolls listing the qualities, characteristics, idiosyncrasies, height, tactility and shape of eyebrows…#@/!? of the dream husband. Gone are the days when ‘good Church girls’ could always expect to find or be found by ‘good Church boys’ in Church.
One wise person said, ‘If you keep doing the same thing in the same way but keep expecting different results – you are as mad as a hatter.’ (paraphrased)
Rather, we are in an age in which as girls we must be prepared to be both ‘prospector and refiner‘ while you outnumbered boys don’t need to worry about such things. It’s a ‘cash and carry’ world for you guys. So while we invest our time refining ourselves, identifying our strengths, weaknesses, skills and gifts and while we calculate what we have to bring to a relationship, we must also be aware that most men are boys…until they have to grow up and even then they often only do that when they meet Ms. Right and ‘suddenly’ they want to be ‘better’ men…or they finally connect with their divine assignment.
If that is really the case , we must put away our fairy-tale desires and embrace the reality of things. When it all comes down to it, I need refining, you need refining and yes…you the wonderful Mr. Could-Be-Right, will quite likely need refining. If Yahweh, the eternal God who could perfect us in a blink has opted to use 6000 years to perfect a Bride for His Son, what makes us think we shouldn’t have to help with the polishing where our spouse is concerned?
So let’s add a pinch of salt to those mighty lists and focus instead on refining ‘self’ both spiritually and physically and be intentional about our willingness to see beyond what our natural eyes can see. Beneath every unpolished gem is a potentially great prize.
And if as ‘girls we are faithful to re-order our thinking, we would be better able to ensure that we stand out, not just because of all the curves, swirls and …pearls adorning us but more for the true beauties we are within.